Conquer Your MIND

For days I have been thinking and introspecting to write something for my blog .. but could not really think of or should I say I was not putting my mind on to it 

Our mind is such a prankster that it can very easily wander to various directions till the time we control it ... 

We’ve all been there. You’re slouched in a meeting or a classroom, supposedly paying attention, but your mind has long since wandered off, churning out lists of all the things you need to do—or that you could be doing if only you weren’t stuck here… suddenly you realize everyone is looking your way expectantly, waiting for an answer. But you’re staring blankly, grasping at straws to make a semi-coherent response. The curse of the wandering mind!

How often are you really, entirely immersed in the current moment and letting your mind take a rest from overthinking? Or are you worrying about the past, anxious about the future, or involved in a fantasy world? 

Often we can find ourselves re-running a conversation we had earlier today, last week, or even last year. “Why did he say that? What a fool I made of myself! She must think I’m an idiot!”

We spin our wheels, knowing in our gut that analysis can lead to paralysis, but still unable to stop our whirling thoughts. So how can we combat this wandering and overthinking 

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

You can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully,

1. Put things into perspective. Will this situation you’re turning over in your mind matter in five years? Or are you blowing things out of proportion?
2. Know your body rhythm & schedule your activities accordingly. Some of us are morning larks, while others are night owls. Which are you? When do you tend to be at your best physically, emotionally, mentally? If you focus best in the morning, try to use this time to tackle challenging projects that might seem overwhelming later in the day. If you’re at the top of your game in the evening, plan to take on important conversations or assignments at this time, when you’re mostly likely to be effective. One advantage to completing matters in the morning is that you can then go about the rest of your day with a sense of accomplishment (or relief).
3. Surrender the need to be perfect or omnipotent. There is no magical finish line which you will cross where you are “done” and have nothing more to learn. We are not meant to be perfect.We are continually growing and changing. We never know all of the facts – instead, we do the best we can with the information at hand. Just do your best each day, then let the matter go.
4. Accept that you cannot change the past.Maybe things didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to, or maybe you made a mistake – extract what possible lesson you can learn from the experience, then move on. Don’t let your past crowd out the present in your mind.
5. Do only one thing at a time. Multi-tasking can contribute to the flurry in our minds. Sitting and being mindful is not always possible. However, you can practice putting all of your attention on just one thing. This in itself would probably be a significant change, as most of us usually do several things at one time. How often have you simultaneously been on the phone while also racing down the freeway, preparing a meal, or surfing the Web? It’s impossible to focus 100% on one thing when you’re juggling various activities at the same time. Instead, you end up dividing your attention between multiple items, and this can result in information overload, which is a recipe for anxiety (& overthinking).
6. Acknowledge the problem, but focus more on the solution. Consider, “What is the best thing that can happen?”, rather than worrying about what might go wrong 
7. Practice mindfulness it alleviates stress ,it work's as an antidote for mind-wandering and the negative effects that losing concentration may have on you 

So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not part of it.

“For him who has no concentration, there is no tranquility.”
– Bhagavad Gita

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Neetu Bhandari

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